Reflections on the Wave of Light: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

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This post was written by RMANJ Director of Mental Health Services Judith Kottick and RMANJ counselor Jennifer Gamper Meenan, who both led a special event in Basking Ridge October 15.

On October 15, a gray and gloomy fall evening befitting the occasion, the RMANJ mental health team held an event for patients and the community to observe Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.  The participants came together to share stories of their losses and create remembrances of the lives we wish were here. Together we read poetry, designed “memory rocks,” wrote our wishes for the future and acknowledged the tough road of grief. To end the evening, we convened outside with candles to participate in the global “Wave of Light” ceremony, happening at 7 pm in every time zone across the world to mark the event.

As facilitators of the group, it was an emotional moment for us to hear participants talk about the depth of their losses and the long-lasting impact on their lives. There were even former patients with healthy children who expressed relief at the opportunity to acknowledge these little lives who remain in their hearts. It was a moving and meaningful evening and we were honored to be part of it.


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With several days left in Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, you may be interested in helping a former RMANJ patient raise awareness about infant loss.

Stacey Dinburg’s organization, the 2 Degrees Foundation, initiated a photography and storytelling project for the month of October profiling women from New Jersey and New York who’ve suffered from some form of pregnancy and infant loss. These women, whose stories can be read here, shared their experiences in hopes of breaking the stigma around loss.

Help Stacey and countless more women break the silence around loss by sharing the project on your social channels and by speaking up to those around you.

Visit or the group’s Facebook page for more information.