Tag: Resilience

Why Not Me?

There is nothing worse than desperately longing for a child while everyone else around you is getting pregnant. By accident. On the first try. And worse… unwanted. It’s like pouring salt into a 10 foot open wound. Jealousy is a natural feeling and you probably find yourself obsessing over the fact that you deserve a […]

Saying good-bye to your fertility doctor

The doctor-patient relationship is unique when treating infertility. There’s an intense period of diagnostic tests, counseling, frequent visits for blood work, ultrasounds, procedures – and then it’s over. Most of the time it ends on a happy note with couples being shepherded happily pregnant to an OB/GYN who can manage the rest of the pregnancy […]

The End Will Justify The Means – destination, parenthood

It must be human nature to get caught up in the details of a journey and sometimes lose sight of the destination, no matter how glorious it may be. The same could be said of parenthood.  Virtually every prospective parent has a vision of how their family is going to start. None involve an IVF […]

Medicine is a humbling profession or “the other 40 percent”

“Medicine is a humbling profession.” I must have heard that once, but I can’t remember where. Just a single line dropped nonchalantly somewhere along the way of 11 years of postgraduate medical education. At the time it was one of those things you hear, know is important and profound, but won’t be able to fully […]


The Buddhist term for an unsettled or restless mind is called ‘monkey mind’.  The Buddha said that we all have ‘drunken monkeys’ jumping around in our brains, vying for our attention. Going through fertility treatment brings out the noisiest of our monkeys, be they anxiety, fear of failure, our lack of control, or constant stress […]

Fostering Resiliency During Fertility Treatment

What is ‘resiliency’? According to the American Psychological Association, resiliency is “the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences”. Resiliency is not ‘a […]